Comments on: I hope you FAIL. It’s good for you.

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:56:09 +0000

What you say Thomas is very true. Having raised 7 children it is in the failing/falling they learn. They have to have something to “learn” from. But, also the caring is mixed with that. If the child didn’t see something they wanted, it wouldn’t matter as much if they fell down. They would probably sit there and play with their toes (G). In the wanting/caring about something it makes them try and try again to get up and go get it. We do the same with our things we care deeply about. We can fall/fail many times but we learn what to do and what not to do to make it right the next time. If we didn’t care it wouldn’t matter so much. Especially since most of us don’t like pain. It has to mean something~

By: Kevin

Kevin — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:21:02 +0000

I never thought about that Karen. How much you care determines if you try it again, huh?

By: Kevin

Kevin — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 15:17:41 +0000

I like what you said…

We don’t learn by getting it right. The best lesson is often the one that ends with a thud.

How true is that!

Thanks for your feedback Thomas!

By: Thomas

Thomas — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 04:04:03 +0000

Looking at it from a child development perspective, failing/falling is critical. The act of falling provides the feedback through the muscles, neurons, and the ears that force the development of new pathways in the brain. These new pathways improve the efficiency of the system allowing for better coordination and improved results when the child is faced with a similar situation in the future.

I think this is true for most situations, regardless of age. We don’t learn by getting it right. The best lesson is often the one that ends with a thud. We remember those and we take steps to prevent it. Thats not my clinical perspective, that’s from a father who has watched a few boo-boos happen.

By: Karen

Karen — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:24:25 +0000

It is all about the ” try, try again”. If it is a passion and a calling how can you stop??
We all fail, it is about how much you care. If you don’t care you give up. If you do care you keep going, until there is nothing left.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 00:51:18 +0000

Hey Guys, here’s an interesting stat on FAILING BIG TIME.

http://www.baseball-reference.com/players/a/aaronha01.shtml?redir

Hank Aaron was a “homerun king” for sure.. but if you look at the stats.. he struck out MORE than he hit homeruns…

We are not defined by our failures. Usually, we are defined by our successes.

I may have to write on that!

Kevin

By: Kimberly Allen

Kimberly Allen — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 18:46:42 +0000

Adam… good point… I think you can be most successful failing, if you’re failing doing what you love. If success is a goal for an individual, it is usually primarily driven by the primal motive of survival… I think in that case, a person would do anything to fail…

By: Jerimy

Jerimy — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 17:55:25 +0000

Amazing life App.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:05:17 +0000

True Adam. I think we all want to succeed at what we try, the problem is, we don’t try. We get stuck in “Analysis Paralysis”… we never get past the “what if”

By: Kevin

Kevin — Fri, 12 Feb 2010 15:03:18 +0000

Nice Sha.. I may use that!